http://divorceafterlife.com A Celebration of Where You've Been and Where You're Going Tue, 12 Aug 2008 00:17:35 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en It's been a long summer full of learning experiences.  Some of them great and some of them not so great.  The process of learning who you are and what you want is not always incredibly enjoyable, but it is necessary, I believe, for a happy life.  I can honestly ... http://divorceafterlife.com/2008/08/11/learning/ I have maybe mentioned that during and after my divorce, I gave up any form of social life to ensure that my children had the easiest transition possible and were provided with a stable, reliable environment.  Their minds and their hearts were of greatest importance to me. Mission accomplished.  Secure, ... http://divorceafterlife.com/2008/06/01/now-what/ There have been days where I spend a lot of time searching.  Usually I am searching for a piece of wisdom that will either echo my feelings for the day (so I know I'm not alone in them) or something I can use to see the brighter side of the ... http://divorceafterlife.com/2008/05/25/rumi/ A friend said, "There can't be a testimony without a test."  She heard that in a church group she attended.  I have often asked difficult questions like, " Why am I being tested?" and "Why am I paying for others' mistakes?" and "When does it get better?"  I think I ... http://divorceafterlife.com/2008/05/19/words-of-wisdom-1/ In an interview published in the March, 2008 edition of Redbook, Uma Thurman struck a nerve with me in a surprisingly good way.  She was commenting on her life after her divorce from Ethan Hawke.  She described her feelings during her divorce as "agony" and was upset when a friend ... http://divorceafterlife.com/2008/05/14/dear-uma/ Today and for the last several days, I have been thinking about how people hurt each other.  Sometimes, for me, it seems like I have to re-live certain hurts over and over again.  And I can be angry and plot revenge and cry and scream all I want and it ... http://divorceafterlife.com/2008/04/21/insult-to-injury/ I always enjoy having talks with my daughter during long car rides.  It keeps me from getting bored and her from fighting with her brothers.  I have always been honest with her regarding our divorce and answer any question she asks to the best of my ability and try always ... http://divorceafterlife.com/2008/04/14/riding-in-cars-with-girls/ I don't know of anyone who endures the torture of divorce and hopes that someday they can have ALL of THAT again.  No one wants to choose the same type of relationship and I have never met anyone who wishes to go through a second bout of divorce proceedings.  Most ... http://divorceafterlife.com/2008/04/05/soul-mates/ Did anyone ever tell you this about your divorce?  I have heard it.  I have also heard: Just Move On! and Who Cares?  Why Do You Care? Now, I don't care why you are divorced or what happened or whose fault it seems to be, these are not fair statements.  Do ... http://divorceafterlife.com/2008/04/02/just-get-over-it/ Today I found out my neighbors are moving.  They moved to this town, 2 houses away, shortly after I did.  It has been wonderful knowing them and I can't imagine this year without them.  They have had our family over for countless dinners, picked up my kids daily after school, ... http://divorceafterlife.com/2008/03/30/losses/