Soul Mates
I don’t know of anyone who endures the torture of divorce and hopes that someday they can have ALL of THAT again. No one wants to choose the same type of relationship and I have never met anyone who wishes to go through a second bout of divorce proceedings. Most become very adamant about what they DON’T want.
But what DO you want? I found myself entertained by the idea of meeting my forever soulmate: the one who would be the perfect relationship for me and we would live happily ever after. That might have been the fairytale…Reality was still meeting someone who fit all of my DO’s and avoided the DON’Ts. I’m still looking, by the way.
I have thought a lot about who my soulmate would be. Someone once said to me that a soulmate was a person who comes into your life and holds up a mirror so that you can see your true self….and that is their only purpose. And then they leave your life. You could not possibly have a long term relationship with a soulmate as the fire burns too hot; the connection is too intense. A friend of mine also read a book with a similar description. With this information, I know I have already met my soulmate, or at least one of them. The end of that relationship still breaks my heart, but remains the one thing that I could not have transformed my life without. I met him at a crucial time and he absolutely helped me see my worth for the first time in my life. He also helped me to form the standards by which I choose my friendships and rank the important items in my life. After the divorce I “lost” what I thought were many important people in my life. What really happened is that I changed the way I looked at them and the way I behaved and I was left with the few true friends that I could not have made it this far without. I thank God for them every day.
My soulmate and I parted ways just as passionately as we found each other. There is not a day when I don’t think of him and wonder how he is. Maybe someday we will meet again. Maybe someday, I won’t need to meet him as I will have found what I’m looking for and live “Happily Ever After.”