Anger
The anger I speak of is the anger that ex-spouses often feel for each other toward the end of their marriage. I have heard that it is supposed to go away with time and, if there are children in the middle the parents can make good choices for them and be at least civil.
Unfortunately, I am reminded often that this may not always be the case. I am a huge fan of civility and making great choices for the sake of the kids. They have a great mom and a great dad and they both love their children and the children love them: it’s still a family, but in separate homes. This is my dream and what I would hope for anyone who chooses divorce. What do you do when the dream does not become reality?
I can tell you I am stubborn and don’t give up easily. So far, my divorce is not much different than my marriage. He and I don’t see eye to eye and he is great at pushing my buttons. I am told to just laugh or to ignore it, but the truth is: he can still hurt me. I want to just get along for our kids. They need parents who are able to speak without constant disagreements. I have held out the olive branch several times to have it cracked and tossed at me. The explanation I give to my kids is that we both just love them so much…
I will continue to hold out for peace and someday I hope it is a reality. If I were the child, I would want at least one of my parents to keep trying. Give Peace A Chance, right? 